If you don’t see skills in the milestone you are in, perhaps look back a milestone or two. The skills are listed at the earliest they have ever been seen. Mini-milestones are milestones that last only one day. Occasionally it seems like the birth date can affect the onset of a milestone. Many parents have confirmed much of the timeline below and others say they see the milestones float by about 1-3 weeks. I strongly recommend starting with the due date to line up with at first. It’s not misbehavior: it’s growth! Your understanding and comforting presence in children’s lives helps and makes everything go better. Help spread the word about developmental stages by directing people to this work. Drop me a line if you want, this page useful? Want more to understand these cycles–and stop blaming you as being a bad parent? Know a struggling parent who might benefit by knowing what they are going through is normal? Throw me a bone by recommending this work to friends and family. I hope most of all that you find my work useful to you in your parenting journey. I am very well read on child development. I worked in software as a test and integration engineer for 10 years before becoming a stay-at-home mom who homeschools my 3 children. I have an Industrial Engineering degree from Penn State. This is the idea behind my book about this: Misbehavior is Growth: An Observant Parent’s Guide to Three Year Olds Let’s break down these barriers between us and our children and fully understand them as to use them to everyone’s advantage. It can have a deep impact on parenting and education. You can unleash an enormous potential by understanding the cycles. Ideas like “ignoring” the stages prevent us from understanding them. Go to them with love and comfort.įurther, if you can handle these times with gentleness, guidance, and wisdom–and invest in them as the teaching opportunities that they are– you will see that on the other side is a child who has an outstanding and robust new skill set. Children literally cling to their parents or evoke their attention in other ways. Past advice usually has one punishing or correcting it or, for the more enlightened, ignoring it to “not feed the attention.” I want to show that these cycles are more like a giant sign–a Bat signal in the air–that our children are begging us to come to them at developmentally critical times. The surviving and thriving sections show off what I want to show with this work: that you can use this information to your great advantage for you as a parent and for your child’s development. Above all else in my surviving section, I assume the child is not bad and that we work around the normal age-related behavior. The tools are meant to give food for thought and to be pattern breakers for where you might get sucked into the negativity that the developmental cycles sometimes bring. The surviving section has links to deal with the difficult behaviors and situations–meltdowns, defiance, and such. This is the #1 comment I get about this work: It helps parents stay patient. Know that your child is not giving you a hard time, they are having a hard time.Know that you are are not a bad parent nor do you have a bad kid. How Understanding Childhood Developmental Cycles Helps YOU! The Four Year Old Milestones were last updated on January 31, 2021. This Three Year Old Milestones were last updated on February 18, 2021. The dates are now in format.īookmark this page to come back for more! I update these summaries often. You’ve been asking for it and here it is! The Observant Mom APP! It’s the same information–just in calendar form! The app now goes from 18 months to age 5 (ending at 5)! Please see more about The Observant Mom App and send any comments, questions or concerns to would very much appreciate your positive review** A Printable PDF of the summaries is immediately after the quick links. The quick links for frequent users are after the age calculator. See “Milestones” at the top for all current milestones–a growing work in progress. This page is dedicated to 3 and 4 year olds. See the toddler milestones at the main page of this website. It is times when children fall apart for some time but after have a burst of new ability. My work documents the age-related “stages” children go through. Dealing with a whiny three year old? Wondering why your 4 year old keeps hitting people? You’re at the right place!
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